For almost a year now, I’ve been reading author and psychologist Marsha Sinetar’s, “Do What You Love, The Money Will Follow,” and have gained valuable information about growing one’s confidence. Marsha and her interviewees explain how vital it is to enhance confidence while doing what you love. Confidence is ultimately the key to remaining empowered and consistent when family, friends and the outside world turn their noses up at you. She discusses how only those who are self-assured will reap full benefits of doing what they love.
Doing what you love is exactly what it sounds like. It’s being present and taking full responsibility of the truest version of oneself. For example, thus far, the realest version of myself is always being honest, entertaining others, being spontaneous and reserved. Now, I know you’re wondering: how one could be reserved along with the other qualities listed. However, it is for me to discover why being reserved is imperative to my nature of being. A quick example of why being reserved is a great balance to being outgoing, is taking a moment to soak in all of life by being still and quiet. I personally feel there is no complete way to indulge in living without having a moment of stillness – and quiet time is something that is valued highly in my case.
Unfortunately, when we are the truest version of ourselves, we are more prone to ridicule and judgment, mainly from those that are closest to us. The outside world can have a hard time understanding you/ figuring out your personality, and this may cause discomfort from being unable to relate and connect for both parties. For example, if I cooked all the time, absolutely adored cooking and it took up most of my time during the day; I might be an inspiring chef, though I may not have realized it yet. I just love cooking. But, because another person might believe in balance and security, they would think I was idiotic or irresponsible to spend most of my day on cooking. They may begin to say things like, “We never go out! Why do you cook all the darn time? I hope all of that time is worth it!” When you start hearing these statements, it’s normally a sign of disconnection – a version of yourself that that person cannot relate to or connect with.
So, how does one get closer to doing what they love, even if they haven’t truly discovered it? It’s simple actually. Increase yourself esteem. Take responsibility for all experiences and relationships in your life. And then, follow your heart by tuning in to your intuition. Let it be the guide you need to explore who you are. Marsha Sinetar calls this self-actualizing.
Contrary to popular beliefs, there is no set day, age or time to discovering your truest self. As time moves, and as long as you are moving besides it, the wiser and more confident you will become. An amazing mentor and friend of mine always talks time. She reminds me that there is no end and that developing yourself will only take time and to be patient. This is why living in the present is extremely important. It gives you the supreme opportunity to focus on improving yourself today, and ultimately your improvements will bring you closer to the truest and highest version of yourself tomorrow.
Here are a few tricks you can use to make sure your actions are aligned to your realest being:
- Watch yourself. Pay close attention to your work habits, how you treat yourself and other WITHOUT JUDGING YOURSELF. Just pay close attention and accept who you are now and the progress that needs to be made.
- Write down your values. Examine why they are valuable and then prioritize them.
- Do something you’ve never done but always had the urge to.
- Say something you’ve been meaning to say to a few people and take full responsibility for what comes next.
- Think of memories that made you feel the most alive and analyze why.
- When you are at your best, what kind of person are you (not considering others thoughts of you).
- And my own personal favorite… Write down what you wish every day could look like from sun up to sun down, and then choose a day to make it a reality. After the day is done, reflect and think about what you would have wanted to improve or done differently.
…And the more confident you are in your words and actions, the money will follow or will not even matter. In some cases, being rich is about being who you are despite others opinions of you. It’s the happiest and wealthiest way to live!
Who are you?!
Ps. It’s all Love.